Just how flexible are you?

There was a time - another life, it seems! - when I was in a job I hated. It was demeaning.

The people I had to rub shoulders with daily were not the sort of people I wanted to spend my time with. I’d dived into it from a desperate need to earn money - then I felt trapped.

It served its purpose. It gave me some income - which I saved like a busy squirrel! - and it put me in a position where I could make some proper choices.

I hear sad cries from people who’d really like to change their lot. “But,” they say, “This is all I’m trained to do. This is the only thing I’m able to do. This is what I’ve always done, therefore I can’t leave and do something else.”

How sad to feel so limited - when in reality the only limits are our own imagination!

There was a time - perhaps your father’s or your grandfather’s time - when you left school, chose a career, started working in a company, then STAYED there till you were 65! A job for life! Imagine!

It used to be that people married for life too … that’s another story, but it does have to do with the fact that now we’re healthier, live longer, learn longer, have more opportunity - and want more!

So there was what used to be called “Job security”. Not any more. We didn’t need a pandemic to show us just how vulnerable we are to change. We’re already on short-term contracts, 5 year contracts, or no contract at all. Few employers dish out permanent contracts these days.

There IS no job security! It’s gone. Whoosh! So what do we do to feel secure?

The new security is flexibility.

The security you make for yourself is the ability to change chameleon-like to fit your circumstances.

* No longer want to commute for hours? Find something at or near home.

* No longer prepared to work long hours never seeing your family? Find something with more congenial hours.

You’re not stuck where you are! You can change! and really all it needs is a decision from you.

The thing is, as William Faulkner said,

“You cannot swim for new horizons until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”

If you resolutely hang on to the job you have for fear of being unable to do anything else, you’ll be there for ever .. (OR until they have a reshuffle, a planned redundancy scheme, a change of management … and you’re out on your ear).

It may be ok if you LOVE what you do, you LOVE your colleagues, LOVE the work, LOVE the commute … you get great satisfaction and reward from it - even a fat pay-check! - but are you sure you have all that?

What are you tolerating?

It’s amazing to me that people tolerate a daily practice that they hate! How wearing is that?

It eats into your health, both physical and mental. Many people are just treading water. They’re putting up with something they really don’t enjoy for fear of leaving it and being worse off. But why hang on to a job you hate for fear of losing it?

That doesn’t make a lot of sense!

It’s understandable that you may feel the need to stay rather than leave. It may be that there’s a lot of self-esteem tied up with this, never mind the small matter of income. it’s like wanting new clothes, perhaps a whole new image, but you can’t get new clothes if your wardrobe is bulging with the old ones! A big clear-out is needed.

Get rid of everything that doesn’t serve you and make room for the new.

The new can’t get in while you cling to the old - and that’s not just clothes and household clutter! It’s all the clutter in your life. And once you start moving forward, you’ll realise the huge choice there is for you! The possibilities are endless!

The thing is, you have the power to do what you like! And the trick is to KEEP MOVING! Another guy who knew what he was talking about - Albert Einstein - said,

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

That is SO TRUE!!

We’re not designed to stagnate - we are people in motion. Keeping in motion keeps us learning, developing, growing. I can tell you if I’d stayed in that job I hated, the job I dived into in a desperate need to earn money, I wouldn’t be here now.

I wouldn’t live where I live.

I wouldn’t do what I do.

I wouldn’t have found what I really could do!

I would never have met the people who have enriched my life, and I certainly wouldn’t be able to help the thousands of people who have learnt from me over the last 15 years or so.

If I had thought “I’m not good enough to do anything else.” OR “I don’t have anything to offer the world,” I might still be there!!! Horrors! Though actually I think I would have fallen ill long since.

You see, your self-esteem needs to be nourished, and it can seriously affect your mental state if you believe the bad things you tell yourself! You have to protect yourself - that real, internal part of you, what makes you you.

You owe it to yourself to find out just what you need to do to give YOU expression. And if it all feels hopeless, I’d love to help you move forward, bust through these misbeliefs that are keeping you trapped!

I’ve been there myself. I’ve got out. I can show you how to!

And this is how:

I’m planning some free 15 minute chats. They’re designed to give you an actionable tip you can put into practice right away. (Don’t worry - I’m not selling anything!)

People are coming away from these chats with renewed enthusiasm for their lives. They come back and tell me that the tip I chose for them has already had a massive effect!

It’s so thrilling when they tell me that! Some go much further and start a major transformation of their lives they never thought possible!

Just hop over here and we can be talking together in a day or so.