What resources have you?

I hear all the time from people who say they have great desires, great plans, things they’d really love to do …

And then they say that they can’t do anything about them because …

😒 They have no time,

😒 They don’t have enough qualifications,

😒 They don’t have the money.

Might that be you, by any chance? Standing on the verge of starting the life you truly want, because you feel insufficient in some way?

And they totally believe this!

They really think they’re trapped - that they can’t do what they want - because of some outside force, some conditions they feel they should meet but fall short of.

They think that getting what you want in life is for other people, not for them.

They think they’re too ordinary, nothing special, and these opportunities are not for them. Sometimes they tell me they have a very supportive partner but that things just don’t seem to be moving ahead. Now I’m not going to do any husband- or wife-bashing here! But look at it from your spouse’s point of view.

Like most people, they probably fear change. They fear that if you go ahead with this plan -which may be a bit shaky and wobbly at this stage - things will never be the same.

That’s true - they won’t! 

But it may make them nervous, anxious. They think that they’ll lose out in some way. It’s understandable! We like security, we are resistant to change. It’s a safety measure. It’s to stop us doing new and possibly dangerous things. But there are times when you need to say “I love that you are supporting me in my idea, and now we need to get it started!”

Don’t take no for an answer!

Resistance!

But I can tell you that most of the resistance will come from within yourself.

You can be your own worst enemy! 

You can be thinking 

😒   you’re not good enough

😒   you don’t know enough

😒    you don’t have enough money

And this is your dear brain trying to keep you safe - just like your partner wants to maintain the status quo - but that won’t butter me no parsnips! You’ll stay stuck forever if you listen to yourself maundering on about how bad it all is and how useless you are! 

To get to grips with our life we have to distinguish between facts and false thoughts.

You see, I was forever beating myself up for what I felt I couldn’t do - perhaps you do the same?

“I’m no good at this” is a THOUGHT the fact may be more like “I can learn how to do this and get good at it.”

“I can’t do this” is a THOUGHT. “I haven’t done this yet,” is the truth.

Does a baby say to himself, “I can’t walk”? No! He gets those feet under him and gets moving. He falls down a lot, of course, till he gets expert at it.

And it’s in the falling down,

👉 The bruised knees

👉 The bruised ego

👉 The hurt feelings

👉 The disappointment

That we learn! 

If all the people who’ve invented things, discovered things, made our lives better, had listened to their inner voice telling them they couldn’t do it we’d still be living in caves! So challenge those thoughts: they are NOT gospel! They’re there to hold you back, to keep you safe - who knows what dangers are out there?

But it’s in getting out of where you feel safe and into the big wide world that you’ll find your power.

Your ability

Your beauty!

What do you think?