Are you giving yourself enough? 

Enough time? Enough credit? Enough love?

We - especially the females of the species, and even more especially those brought up in a country with a protestant work ethic - seldom give ourselves enough.

Working from home!

This is a DREAM for many of us! And being based at home has so many advantages! Can you think of them?

I want you to focus on your good points, Yes - you have good points! We all have good points. Sometimes they get a bit buried In the hustle and bustle of daily life but they are there and you want to be sure to give them expression as often as you can.

We start our new business idea with such great enthusiasm!

We KNOW this is going to be the best thing ever.

We have an irresistible offer,

We have all the knowledge we need,

We KNOW we’re good at what we do.

I have to confess that I used to sit waiting for inspiration.

I was busy all the time, doing this, doing that … and I expected the muse to appear, tap me on the shoulder, and say, “Excuse me, but were you wanting a shaft of light?”

ld make what I loved doing become the focus of my day (in my case it was that I’d be good at training others to train their dogs) I did what many people do.

Isn’t that what we all yearn for? To be able to do what we love, all day long? 

I guess it’s the reason so many people look forward to retirement - so they can leave the hateful or boring day job and enjoy endless gardening, or travelling, or reading, or whatever floats your boat!

Today I want you to focus on your good points

Yes - you have good points!

We all have good points. Sometimes they get a bit buried in the hustle and bustle of daily life but they are there and you want to be sure to give them expression as often as you can.

It’s your good points that make you of value to the world.

I’m often told by people who feel lost that they have nothing to offer, Nothing to give.

We were looking at the kind of nonsense we take seriously when we’re deciding to follow our passion.

Thoughts of insufficiency, and worse - implied criticism or disrespect from those who should be supporting us!

So what should we be saying instead of “I’m a failure”?

I was talking to someone recently who told me they had LOADS of ideas. They had even started to work out a plan to get them where they wanted to be but they would start the day all enthusiastic then come down with a crash when they realised they didn’t know what to do!

I am eternally curious. Think of the 4 year old child who drives everyone mad with endless WHYs. whywhywhy, but Mummy WHY? And somehow I never grew out of that! Whywhywhy is a constant cry of mine.

So - following from my thoughts last week about comparisonitis, and feelings of insufficiency - FEAR - my question for you to ask yourself is:

If I weren't afraid, what would I do?

If all the people who’ve invented things discovered things made our lives better had listened to their inner voice telling them they couldn’t do it we’d still be living in caves! So challenge those thoughts they are NOT gospel! They’re there to hold you back keep you safe - who knows what dangers are out there?

Further to last week’s discussion on lack of system and lack of confidence which may be holding you back from making your dream a reality, I want you to look at some more things that may trip you up!

People are always looking for answers they trawl the internet,

They blitz Youtube,

They email people … they ask and ask

They think they need resources

But in fact what they need are answers and here’s the sad thing - they don’t trust themselves enough to know that they already have the answers!

Practice makes Perfect

BUT in fact that’s a nonsense!

If you’re practising the wrong thing, it will be “Practice makes Imperfect”.

If you’re practising badly, it’ll be “Practice makes Worse”.

It’s all to do with what you’re actually DOING, rather than how much you do it!

We grow up being told what to do.

We take it for granted that our elders and betters are - not only elder, but better!

But now you’re all grown up and you can see how little they actually did know!

Doors are clanging and clattering open all the time.

But so often we miss them, because we’re not expecting them, or we’re looking at the wrong door!

Yep - you’re beautiful!

It’s official.

When you were born, did your parents not think you were beautiful?

What about all those oohs and aahs over the pram?

Finding out what you really want in life can be very hard - especially if you’ve spent your life up to now doing what others wanted, dictated, and chose for you!

So how can you find out for sure what you really want?