How much am I really worth?

This is another of those WRONG questions!

Of course you have worth, and that worth will vary for whoever you’re dealing with.

Ask a better question and you’ll get a better answer!

The important thing is to remember your own value as an individual.

You see, I used to trouble myself with questions about how good I was. I played down my gifts and achievements.

I thought I simply wasn’t good enough, didn’t measure up to what people expected. Years of smart-arse teachers knocking me down, deriding my dreams, had worn a groove in my confidence.

I played small.

Does this sound painfully familiar?

It was only when I started to see what I COULD achieve that I actually started to honour my intrinsic gifts and start achieving.  


Small successes built on small successes until I could see what I was good at, and what I alone could contribute!

So I had to discard the nonsense I believed and develop a genuine opinion of myself - and that’s what you have to do too.

You have to start by being a bit more realistic! And doing yourself down is not the least bit realistic!

Who put these ideas into your head? Teachers, unkind relatives, people who were jealous of your popularity? Regardless of who it was, it’s history now.


Look at what you have achieved! Look at what people compliment you on, what you know you can bring to any situation. 

Start to build a better opinion of yourself

You need to know that you are a real individual, and as such have something individual to offer the world. Everyone has something special they can give.

No-one else has that precise mix of characteristics, personality, and experience that you have.

Start collecting compliments like stamps and cherish them. 

Instead of pushing them away with a “Oh no, not really,” say THANK YOU and smile. You’ll find your confidence growing each time you acknowledge something that you can do and that someone has recognised in you.

This is why it’s such fun for me being a Transition Coach - watching my clients blossom is wonderfully exciting!

Now ask some better questions!

Instead of asking yourself how much worth you have, and inviting the answer “not much”, start asking better questions which will yield a more useful answer


How about,

“What am I really good at?” 

“What do people ask me to do because they know I do it well?”

“What do I enjoy doing most, which will help others?”

The answers you’ll get to these questions will not only boost your confidence but show you how much you can offer to the world!

The WRONG questions!

Can you see how asking the wrong questions is always going to get you the wrong answer? 

But you’ve probably been brought up to ask these wrong questions.

Most people operate from a base of self-doubt and feelings of insufficiency. 

It can take practice and a bit of help to start looking dispassionately at yourself and start asking questions which will bring you helpful answers, to build your confidence and enable you to make big leaps forward!

This could feel like strange territory to you! To operate from a place of self-respect, honouring your gifts and your individuality.

You may have been told so often not to get above yourself, or reckon yourself at all, that it doesn’t feel right or easy!

It’s not surprising so many of us struggle with our self-esteem!

But I’m there to give you a helping hand! Want to have a no-sales chat to see if I understand your situation and can bring you some clarity? Click here and we can talk.