You create a better life by creating a better self-image

Is that True or False?

I floated this question in the my private group Creativity Central recently and got ZERO response.

Now either I worded it too obscurely for it to be understood or nobody agreed with me … or could see any sense in the statement.

Either way - I realised I had work to do!

So I’m revisiting this now to take the bones out of it and see if I can get it to resonate with you!

Life happens …

I suppose this is where people get stuck.

You create a better life by … by doing anything! So many people are caught up in the idea that life happens TO them.

When they should know that THEY happen to Life! 

It’s vital that you realise that all the forces around you will not affect you if you are CLEAR on what you believe - what you want and what you’re going to get!

We are the authors of our own destiny!

It can be hard to realise that, when you always seem to have been fitting in with someone else’s whims and desires for so long.

First parents, then school, then at work, maybe even in your personal relationships!

There’s no need to let others run your life - you can run it perfectly well yourself.

For some people it’s because they’re female in a patriarchal society.

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What’s a patriarchal society? 

It simply means a society where the rules have been set by the males of the species.

Ours.

And naturally that disadvantages half the population! in civilised countries this is mercifully changing! But I digress …

Actually, I only digress a little because our self-image is tied up with all the inputs we’ve been getting all our lives, and if one of those inputs is that you are of a lower class of person, for whatever reason - sex, colour, education, income - then you have work to do to resist these inputs.

Your self-image is how you see yourself. Where you see yourself fitting in the world we live in.

And if you’re planning on improving your life, building your career, starting a business - as so many of you excitingly are! - then you’re not going to make too much progress If you spend your time apologising for your existence!

No apologies needed!

I know that sounds harsh. But isn’t that what we’re doing when we say to ourselves,

“You’re not good enough”

OR

“You need to take another 10 exams first …”

OR

“Who’d want to pay you?”

If we undervalue ourselves then we’re inviting others to do the same.

That makes sense, doesn’t it? That what we put over to others is what they’ll think? Does that make sense to you?

And many of the people I work with start off with those debilitating thoughts. In the Brilliant Family Dog Trainer Business Program we work first of all on getting to see our own true worth!

Confession time …

I suppose I can put in a confession here.

I used to think like that.

I honestly didn’t think I was worthy of the sort of consideration others got. Put it down to a severe religious upbringing if you like - of teaching people that they’re worms and deserving of nothing. 

When people said “You should teach others how to do what you do” I would say “Who, me??? Oh, I couldn’t do that!” but enough people said it in a sincere and encouraging fashion that I began to see that YES! I could teach people what I know! It’s actually become a watchword with me:

to teach everything I know.

No point in taking it to the grave with me! That’s no use to anyone!

We live our lives and we learn masses, and we have a duty to pass that on so that others may learn it too - and all of us in the caring industries have this realisation fairly strongly.

We just need to understand that WE can do it!

Yes, US!

I think you’d agree that if you feel fulfilled in your mission on this earth - feel that you are contributing, giving something back, helping others to a better life - then you will naturally have a better life yourself. You will feel at peace with what you spend your day doing. And if you’re doing it right with the right systems - of tech, marketing, and so on, you’ll also be earning a decent living.

Just because you’re in a caring profession does not mean you should sell your soul for … peanuts!

Not at all!

You are providing a valuable service and as such should be amply rewarded - and you can be!

There are just some key things you need to know in order to make your business run at a profit rather than a cost!

Making it a business, rather than a hobby, knowing what is the most effective way to advertise, for instance.

Knowing how to handle enquiries to convert them quickly and painlessly into paying customers!

What software and systems are worth investing in and where you shouldn’t waste your money …

Wouldn’t you like to know all that, to transform your business?

After all, we’re working hard at what we want to do. We need to ensure that we’re putting our labours into the right place to get the results we want. 

You are worth as much as the next person! You have a place in this world to let your individual gifts shine through - and reach the people who NEED you!

It’s SO exciting when you discover this! That changing your self-image and what you feel you deserve and can expect from the world makes such a difference to your life!  

I have lots more tricks up my sleeve to help you get what you’re really wanting out of life. 

Want to know more? Head over to this page and talk it over with me. No pressure - I have nothing to sell you on this call - I just love, as I said, to teach everything I know!

Want to catch some of this teaching?