ASK, and it just may be given to you!

What I’d like you to look at today is what we can control, and what we can’t.

And how to tell the difference!

As you saw in the story I told you of my friend Hans way back in March, we can’t control our circumstances! A crazed dictator and an army was dictating his.

But what he COULD control was what he thought about it.

And what he DID about it.

And while we are globally in a difficult circumstance right now (though arguably, not as bad as Hans’s!) we still ALWAYS retain the ability to choose our own thoughts.

Yes, it can be challenging. When everyone seems to be doomscrolling, losing their heads, saying life is ruined for ever …

But YOU don’t need to think like that!

😊 You can keep your own dreams alive.

😊 You can make your own goals.

😊 You can build your own life - just the way you want it.

You are NOT trapped in your situation!

I know it may feel like that sometimes.

You may wonder how you can support yourself if you change career. You may have a partner who is less than supportive. But you may also be very surprised if you actually make a decision!

Let me tell you …

There was a time when I was a lone parent of two teenage boys. I was working 80 hours a week, with one day off a week. That day off was taken up with shopping, housework, and laundry. And a bit of catch-up sleep!

One day it all changed.

As part of my work I had visited a foster house. One of the parents was instructing a 15-year-old girl on how to do the laundry. I commented on this, and the mother said to me, “Well they have to leave here when they’re 16. They need to be equipped for the world.”

I came to my senses!

I went home and said to the boys, who were about 13 and 15, “Can you do your own washing in future? I’ll show you how to use the machine.”

They barely missed a beat of their video game. “Oh, ok.” they said, and carried on zapping baddies.

And I never had to wash any of their things again.

For years I had thought I had to! It had never occurred to me to ask them to do the task. And yet, when it came to it, it was so simple!

It was also an important part of their education, of course, making them into independent young men (for which they have always thanked me!)

“Oh, ok”

So if you formulate a plan, and put it to your doubting partner as a fait accompli, you may find they say “Oh, ok,” and are happy to go along with it.

Try it with something and see - you may be ASTONISHED!

Now when it comes to formulating that plan, you don’t need to map out the whole thing!

You just have to decide what you want - then map out the destination.

That could be

❓ Where you want to live,

❓ Who you want to live with,

❓ What you want to be doing,

❓ What you want to be earning …

Just make your starting point.

Take ONE step towards your end plan then the next step will unfold for you …

It’s magic.

And your dedication and determination will hopefully inspire the people who love you, who deep down want you to be happy, to give you the support you will need.

And if they won’t give it to you … try me!

if you have a desire to move past your limitations and achieve what you want, check out this quick video and talk to me.

This is what one person said on a recent call, “I loved being able to say things out loud and not try to hide them from my family.”

If I can get you going I want to be able to!