Further to last week’s discussion on lack of system and lack of confidence which may be holding you back from making your dream a reality, I want you to look at some more things that may trip you up!

Nothing ever stands still and - as the saying goes nature abhors a vacuum. So if a gap in the market appears the canny folk have been quick to jump in.

Like all the companies who made hay when the pandemic hit, like online conferencing and the like - an essential and much-needed service!

We believe we are limited by the world around us.

We believe that we have been short-changed!

Everyone else seems to have what they need - and we don’t! And you know what? If that’s what you believe, that’s just how you’ll stay.

Imagine how the game would go if there weren’t any!

22 people, running about aimlessly, kicking a ball here or there. Nothing happening. No drama. No joy. No regret.

Just running about kicking a ball.

There was a time - another life, it seems! - when I was in a job I hated. It was demeaning the people I had to rub shoulders with daily were not the sort of people I wanted to spend my time with.

People are always looking for answers they trawl the internet,

They blitz Youtube,

They email people … they ask and ask

They think they need resources

But in fact what they need are answers and here’s the sad thing - they don’t trust themselves enough to know that they already have the answers!

Have you got role models?

By that I mean people whose success and achievements you admire and want to mimic?

This is great! BUT the key is that you’re following the RIGHT people for the RIGHT reasons!

This week I’ve been talking to a few people who are keen, eager, and ready to start their businesses!

They’ve got an idea they’ve been dreaming about for … ages. They’ve been plotting and planning for … ages.

Practice makes Perfect

BUT in fact that’s a nonsense!

If you’re practising the wrong thing, it will be “Practice makes Imperfect”.

If you’re practising badly, it’ll be “Practice makes Worse”.

It’s all to do with what you’re actually DOING, rather than how much you do it!

We grow up being told what to do.

We take it for granted that our elders and betters are - not only elder, but better!

But now you’re all grown up and you can see how little they actually did know!

Doors are clanging and clattering open all the time.

But so often we miss them, because we’re not expecting them, or we’re looking at the wrong door!

Yep - you’re beautiful!

It’s official.

When you were born, did your parents not think you were beautiful?

What about all those oohs and aahs over the pram?

Finding out what you really want in life can be very hard - especially if you’ve spent your life up to now doing what others wanted, dictated, and chose for you!

So how can you find out for sure what you really want?

Great question!

Let’s look at this more closely.

Every day, all day, from the moment you open your eyes in the morning, you are making decisions.

“Will I get up now?”

“Will I do my exercises?”

“What will I have for breakfast?”

And so on.

Not important, you may think, yes?

I want to talk to you today about a concept that eludes many people.

And that’s that what you decide TODAY will dictate the future direction of your life.

We’re always in such a hurry!

Busy busy busy - rushing from here to there, Racing from pillar to post.

Sometimes you meet yourself coming back!

And we expect everything to happen immediately.

Recently I was talking to you about thinking things into existence. And that’s true - nothing happens unless we think it first!

It’s YOUR life, and YOUR thoughts

You will never be happy if you are bowing to others’ opinions!

Like you, I was “brung up” to be polite and respectful


I would take others’ opinions most carefully into consideration.


Like all of us - I made mistakes in my life, whether getting in with the wrong crowd, pursuing the wrong goals, or just not having any direction at all! When I think of what my poor parents had to put up with … 😢

And yet … how many of us are caught up in some sort of Puritan work ethic that means we must not enjoy ourselves?

That enjoying ourselves is somehow self-serving?

How many times have you watched a tv detective, or read a detective story, where the detective is convinced from the start who the guilty person is?

He then works through the whole book or play fitting the evidence to the person!